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The Turning Point

When I was asked to be a keynote speaker at the US Martial Arts Convention in Washington DC, the subject was The Turning Point. Here’s the highlights from this presentation:

For me and all of us, we have negative events in our lives: Tragedies, setbacks, obstacles…for us in Louisiana, our most well-known are Katrina and the following economic slump, and the oil spill. After events like these, griping, complaining, grumbling, and fault finding become everyone’s pastime.

But my question for you is: Are you a thermostat or a thermometer?

Are you a thermostat? Do you set the temperature in your life? For example, your attitude, your values, your beliefs, or your standards of excellence?

Or are you a thermometer? Do you reflect your environment and the thoughts and actions of those around you?

I hope its #1!

You decide for your family, your kids, your entire life. You ultimately decide what you think and say and do, because what goes on in your mind is exactly the results that you’ll get, and what you ALLOW to come out of your mouth will greatly determines your outcome.
For me, I had to stop making excuses, and stop accepting excuses made for me. I had to flood myself with positive messages, people, actions, habits and routines. I realized as YOU MUST, The Turning Point has always been as it always will be — the Turning Point had to happen inside of me. Nothing will get better until we do; make the decision today. Your mind, your thoughts, and your words will create your future. The battle to be won is within you- not outside of you

You’re the answer your looking for, and it all starts and ends with you and your choices. Henry Ford said, “Whether you believe you can or you can’t, you’re always right”

So begin anew today!  Build the life of your dreams with no excuses or apologies! Your country, your community, and your family need you at your best more now than ever!

It’s your choice- I suspect you know it. It’s your choice- it always has been. Choose to be your best! Dream, build , create, encourage, grow! You can and must do it, so begin right now. Live the life of your dreams, and be sure to pray and include God in your plans!

 

Parents and Daughters

Horrified! That’s the best way to describe what me and my wife felt while watching the game this week! Not horrified by the game, but horrified at the commercials, and how racy and lewd they were!

Sitcoms are just as racy and lewd! They have been attacking families and relationships constantly, but now they have really kicked it up to a new level. “Men are fools”. Well, some of us earned that.” Kids are uncontrollable, disrespectful monsters”. Well only if you allow it.

Now this! A new show called I Hate My Teenage Daughter. Really? Moms hate their daughters? I get it’s a tough relationship at times, but get some wisdom and skills to navigate it! But I digress.

If you don’t understand the power of the media, you need to. The power of suggestion on teens and adults is massive, and these statements and humorously arranged circumstances that are shown are actually painful for all involved.

I have 4 kids, 2 boys and 2 girls, 9 to 20 in age range. I HAVE NEVER HATED MY KIDS.

At any age, at any stage. Never resented them, and the suggestion that it’s humorous for parents to hate their kids, and that the teenage years are going to be awful is something I refused my entire parenting career.

”Terrible two’s”? I refused and rebuked it. High school? Not a problem. Not perfect, mind you, but I refused to let my kids’ behavior influence how I felt about them, or how I trained them and coached them.

There is a separation time that happens when your kids are teens, as it should, and you should be separating from them and training them to be more independent.

The whole parent-pal model has failed since the 1970′s and will fail forever. You’re a parent, grow up. They’ve got friends, they need a parent.

Placing unrealistic adult expectations on a relationship with a child or teen is selfish and creates codependency. Don’t do it.

But you have to control how you feel when disappointed by your teens. But hate ‘em? Never!

Frustrated with them? Agitated? “Sure, join the club, we’ve got jackets”, as Shrek says.

But hating someone that was a gift from heaven, I wouldn’t even joke about that. And suggesting it, is trying to make fun of and damage a relationship that is a gift from heaven. Even when it’s not going smooth.

I remember once my 17 year old son wanted to go on a ski trip with his high school girlfriend and family, I said no (parents you know its ok to say that, right?), and he said he was gonna be mad at me and hate me for the weekend (emotional manipulation), to which I said, “I love you too much to let your temporary hatred of me sway my decision of what I think is best, I’m a big boy I can take it”

So don’t watch that show, or if you do, feel sorry for the fools who will laugh at it, while it influences the way they interact and feel about their relationships with their moms and daughters.

You and the StormProof Tribe, we avoid the attempt at belittling our families, minds, spirits, health, and finances.

Fear and weakness is for others, not for us. Turn off the idiot box; you’ll be better for it.

Success is up to you!

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